In everyone’s life, there will be some people and companies you like better than others. There are many reasons but if we take it for a given, in terms of relationship building people do business with people they like. To discuss what likability is and how you can do better in it, Michelle Lederman wrote The 11 Laws of Likability published by American Management Association, NY, 2012. How do you ensure there are true win-win situations and you will hopefully note the laws can be applied to life in general.
Law 8 – The Law of Mood Memory
People tend to remember how you said something rather than what you said or you should be in a good mood. The mood is seen through your words – try to positive frame your words; your body language tells a story – eye contact, smiling, posture, reaction to what people say and leave the person feeling good.
Law 9 – The Law of Familiarity
People feel comfortable with who and what they know. Send cards – congratulations which increases familiarity and the positive mood memory you are associated with. Use social media and send notes. Remember the idea is to be in the person’s circle not in their face.
Law 10 – The Law of Giving
Think what can I do for you? There are extraordinary value in doing things because you want to, not because you expect anything in return. Giving creates value. Remember what goes around, comes around.
Law 11 – The Law of Patience
Sometimes patience is a virtue, sometimes you wish it would come faster. Learning to give it time, things will happen. If you are baking a cake turning up the temperature does not make it bake faster. It takes time. Patience to find similarities, to build relationships, to establish trust and to create familiarity. Many relationships evolve over time. Have patience.
Linking to dividend paying stocks, having patience means to look at the dividend first and the capital gain will come. As long as the dividend is easily payable the company is profitable which means the stock price will go up. Having the dividend allows for the markets to go up and down and you be rewarded.
There are more questions than answers, till the next time – to raising questions.